DOES MY PENIS LOOK BIG IN THESE JEANS? Conversations with Spencer!!!

DOES MY PENIS LOOK BIG IN THESE JEANS?

Aloha everyone! Today we thought we’d tackle a tough package and let’s hope we don’t get eaten for lunch over it. Do we have the balls or the er equipment to um…tackle this subject.

Yeah… I think I’m out of silly juvenile penis innuendoes now… 

Does size matter? Who lies about penis size? The women? The men? This is what we’re chatting about today on Conversations with Spencer.

One of our erotic writer friends said he DID lie about his penis size on line, thinking he’d NEVER meet the lady in question. Well, he did and she forgave him and married him.

PENIS FACTS 1. Only 6 percent of the male population needs extra-large rubbers, according to condom manufacturers. In other words, 94 percent of men lie.

So, how important is it in the grand scheme of things? Who cares more? Who lies more?

When a man says, “Is my penis big enough?” What woman is game enough to say, “Well, now that you mention it…”

Or do we all lie to save male ego, not hurt someone’s feelings, be nice? Or do we care as much as they think we do?

And what do we think about men who ask this question?

Who’s more obsessed with penis size – men or women?

PENIS FACTS 2. Eight-five percent of women are satisfied with the penis size of their partners, although only 55% of guys like their size. About 90% of women prefer a wide penis to a long one.ⁱ

We had one of our writers once say, I bet it was the large penis you all noticed in that written piece. But it wasn’t for the women. It was the kindness or humanness or humor of the man.

Do we really not mind? Well… I’m obviously the female part of this chat today and I’m ooooh… going to have to be honest. Ouch.

Do I want someone who’s a foot long? No! My toyboy said he damaged someone’s cervix and she ended up at the emergency room? OMGiddy Aunt! It is uncomfortable if someone is too long.

But… I do like looking at big penises. Yes I do. They’re just so lovely. Well, actually, MOST penises are lovely to look at for me. I really like male genitalia. It’s very exciting, very sexy. You get a soft flaccid penis that transforms into a rock hard velvety exterior upright cock. It fascinates me. I love watching and feeling the process from soft to hard. I have to admit, there’s a wee bit of penis envy in there for me. J

SPENCER:

Guys this is not an invitation to send a picture of your junk. We have standards of proper demeanor here.

Meg:

Yes, and I only like shots with pubic hair. Plus, if I want to look at that, I’ll go and seek it out myself. And really…here’s another question. Why do guys DO that stuff? Why do guys think sending pictures of their penises will win them a date? My instant reaction is “euuwww, creepy.” I want to know what makes those guys tick that think that’s a really cool thing to do? Do they ACTUALLY think they’ll get a date? Are they socially inept? Are they mentally deranged? Arrogant? What? I do wonder.

I remember years ago, working with a guy who said a friend of his used to hit on this woman all the time, who wouldn’t go out with him (and you’ll see why her instincts were DEAD on in a moment.) So, one day, while she was working in the library, he unzipped his fly and flopped his penis out on the desk. Without missing a beat, she looked up, looked at it and said, “Oh…it looks like a penis, only much smaller.” Then went back to work. YES!!!

I HATE those guys that did things like that back then and do things like that now. And I want to know WHY some men would do that stuff? Okay, but back to our main broadcast! And the men I DO like and love.

PENIS FACTS 3 During the Middle ages, men walked around in a codpiece, an often brightly colored covering for the penis in men’s breaches. It was padded and molded in the shape of a permanent erection. King Henry VIII had the largest codpiece in England.

And just as an aside when Spencer and I were discussing this. I had commented on the fact that it seems men have a much easier time getting hard, being turned on, staying turned on and orgasming. And it’s just so fun!!

SPENCER:

Young men. But its still fun for old guys.

Meg:

I don’t think our bits are particularly fun, but I suspect there’s quite a few men that would disagree with that statement.

SPENCER:

That would be me, for one.

Meg:

So, back to the main topic. One question at a time. What DO I say when a man says, “Is my penis big enough?”

Would I say, “Well, I’m glad you asked Bob, because really, your penis is not up to scratch. It’s not long enough, thick enough, not crazy on the color and please…please…I beg you. Grow some pubic hair!!!”

No. I would not say those things. I might say, ‘You know… I LOVE pubic hair.” But saying to someone, I don’t like your penis, is like saying to someone, actually your nose is just too big. And how does that work? We like big penises but not big noses?

So, why do men ask this question?

SPENCER:

The flip side of penis envy is penis insecurity.

I want everyone reading this who has an iPhone to punch up the robot assistant Siri and ask about penis size. She told me the average size of an erect male penis is 15.5 centimeters. Well, damn woman, how long is that? I'm an American. Six inches.

Woot woot! I'm above average for once in my life!

There is so much to probe here from the silly to the profound. Would I trade my above average tool for an above average IQ? I'm not smart enough to know. (rim shot)

MEG:

PENIS FACTS 4 The world’s largest penis

The largest penis ever to be medically verified was 13.5 inches long and 6.25 inches in circumference. Just to put that in perspective, the average vagina is three to four inches deep.

And wouldn’t that be so inconvenient! I once had someone on in a story about the penis of the hero being big enough to barely get their hand around. I said, how big is this penis? Crikey dick! Reality in writing please folks. J But perhaps the hero was this man’s brother.

SPENCER:

It's best I begin with confession. I never sat around in the locker room comparing erections with the guys. I don't know if guys even do that. A straight, vanilla guy like me, from a sexually repressed background has very little occasion to see other men erect anywhere aside from porn films.

My first wife and I were virgins when we met, having had no previous sexual experience. I had no idea about my size. The topic never came up. We eventually divorced. When I started dating again, I was surprised that women partners described me as big. I thought, “what a perfect lie to tell a man to boost his ego. How is he going to know?” Of course I was flattered, but too repressed to ask the hundred or so follow-up questions.

MEG:

Well, I’m quite keen to know what the hundred or so follow-up questions would have been. We women would love to know what men would love to ask? Do tell Spencer? J

SPENCER:

I think it would be; really? really? You’re not fooling really? How much bigger? What does bigger feel like? And so? Wow I'm really bigger? How was that for you? Did I get it right? And on and on with all my male insecurities.

MEG: 

Ah, so see, this is why men ask that question. They’re not really saying, Does my penis look fabulous? They’re saying, am I okay? Did I do it right? Am I enough for you? This makes more sense to me now? It’s not an ego question they’re asking. It’s a confidence question. Am I okay? The same thing we all want to know at the end of the day.

SPENCER:

More confession. It was a nice ego boost. I'm not sure how well I would have handled the disappointment card a second time around. My ex-wife played the disappointment card with all the skill of a Las Vegas Black Jack dealer.

I've been married now to the same woman for 25 years. She tells me how good I am. It still matters. Now I've reached that time in life when sexual performance is on the decline-rapidly—not for lack of interest—just biology.

Meanwhile, or not surprisingly the phenomenon of erectile dysfunction and its twin brother, male enhancement have broken through to main stream advertising. Viagra has been showing progressively younger men in its commercials. (They started with Bob Dole). But a true sign that the end of civilization is near, even the bastion of maleness, "Monday Night Football" has been invaded. Football advertising is mostly trucks and beer. Beer fantasy is the greatest. Imagine a long legged, big breasted, narrow hipped woman is going to love me for the beer I drink. (MEG: lol… snorting with laughter. Now, you put it like that… yes? It does make you wonder. J) 

Now that friend’s is unabashed false advertising, but we slurp it up. The breach happened last Monday. Now a sultry, young gal with a smoky British accent, played with her hair while telling me its okay for me to go get the blue pill. I bet it was lines around the block for every physician in the land.

Once again I think as writers of erotica we have an opportunity to change the chorus. What is more common in erotica than the MC with big junk? It's time to celebrate the little guy. I have had female characters with small breasts ("The Substitute" coming soon from Breathless Press). Part of the character arc of Britta Sorensen involves her small breasts—they symbolize what she feels is wrong with her life. My male MC tells her and shows her how erotic small breasts are.

Small is the new big. Who's up for that? (pun intended)

So ladies, there’s a time and place for truth and mercy, sometimes they are at odds. When a woman says, “does this make me look fat?” A wise man comes to see it is a loaded question, and the answer weighs heavily on his future. If a man asks you if you think he's big, mercy is a far more blessed quality than truth. Tell the lie. He won't know. Or you can always say, “You’re the biggest I've ever had.” Throw in a longing sigh and he'll hand you the charge card.

MEG:

Okay, here’s something I find interesting reading this. You think we should well… stretch a truth slightly? Okay, I understand that. No one wants to hurt someone’s feelings. But do some men think that we’re after their ‘charge-card?’ Why?

PENIS FACTS 6. There is no correlation between penis size and shoe size, hand size or nose size. And the bad news is even worse for gold-digging nymphos: There's no correlation between penis size and wallet size.

SPENCER:

The charge card thing is only a joke. All I'm saying is that men are terribly insecure about their ability to satisfy a woman. As far as stretching the truth, men are as insecure as women. "Does this make me look fat" is about a lot of body image issues that men are supposed to have answers for. We don't have good answers but we should. But really we can't. My wife is a curvy woman. I love her body. She had been programmed to hate it. I can't bring enough to overcome the women's' chorus. It breaks my heart at times.

Men are just as insecure. We long to hear that whatever we have satisfies our partner. So tell you man he satisfies you—if he does—if he doesn't help him to do it better. You want him to see you with the eyes of love. Why not return the favor and see him as the man he wants to be?

MEG:

This conversation has been interesting for me in that I realize how insecure men are. I always thought that question was a slight mark of arrogance, but I’m realizing it’s not. I’m not even sure why I thought that. Is that the same reason jerks send penis pics? Do they think it’s the only way a woman might consider going out with them? I have the personality of a bullfrog, face of a martian and my POS car is nothing to write home about either… However…I can offer you this!!! Ta Da!!! The penis extraordinaire!!

SPENCER:

Unfortunately but maybe not surprisingly phallus phasination goes back to the dawn of mankind. I remember seeing a documentary about a tribe living somewhere in the South Pacific that had very little contact with Westerners. The guys wore hollowed out roots over their penis, apparently the larger your root the more status you had. So I ask you, what's changed? The Asian's are going to put tigers elephants and rhinoceros into extinction trying to get elixir’s for male enhancement.

Vanuatu tribesmen

God, Mother Nature or Darwin also had a hand on this. I believe that homo sapiens have a larger penis related to body size than any of the great apes. In my unpublished micro-fiction work, "Garden Makeover," Adam and Lilith are having lots of troubles. Among other things Lilith is not satisfied sexually. Adam can't get her to do anything. God finally agrees to a do-over. He puts Adam to sleep to create Eve, but also improves his package. Lilith finds Adam and Eve together and stomps out of the garden in a rage.

We mock women for their insecurity, but we men are just as bad. I wonder how much money is spent each year on male enhancement?

MEG:

And the above story of Adam and Eve and Lilith illustrates the point. Men often think that size is a requirement for making someone a good lover or that it will be more attractive to a woman. Both of those things are completely false. It’s what you do with it, not the size or shape that counts. What’s that saying, “A man is only as good as the tools he uses.” Or something like that. I’ve come across a few guys with big penises and they were crap lovers. They almost seemed to be of the opinion that they had a big penis, so nothing else was required. If you don’t know what you’re doing with other things like your hands, fingers, mouth and tongue, who cares what your penis does?

I think it comes down to the fact that a larger percentage of women DON’T orgasm through penetration sex. Does this make a man feel ‘less than’ because his penis isn’t really the object of direct arousal per se? Lucee Lovett has just written a story about a guy and his wife who are having a hard time sexually. The guys convinced all along it’s because his penis isn’t big enough. But it nothing to do with that. It’s because he’s useless in bed. He’s never brought his wife to orgasm manually. He gets to where he needs to be and has been convinced his penis will be the sole source of her joy. Sorry…not the case.

Yes, god forbid we’d have to do without them, and it’s not to say that making love with someone deep inside you isn’t gorgeous…but…and…it’s not usually our sole source of orgasm.

SPENCER:

Again and performance are a whole related issue that really accelerates a man's insecurity. You deal with it so well with your character Henry, although he has a faster recovery time than a typical 68 yr old, he offers us old guys hope.

MEG:

J On Henry. Thanks. Well, remember too, that Henry is into progressive medicine, so he’s healthier generally than your average 68 year old. He does use natural testosterone cream on his skin every day to replace what’s missing. So that does help him…and…the author has taken a wee bit of liberty. But not overly so. I wanted it to be as realistic as possible. Often Henry can’t have sex, because he’s simply out. I did research this because I didn’t want it coming off as ridiculous. I really did find one doc who said he had a 98 year old patient who still had regular sex. I thought that was wonderful!!!

But getting back to the performance thing as well. I’ve noticed sometimes that men seem to think they need ‘stamina’ or to go for a long time. I’m not sure that’s across the board. What says you Spencer? I personally get bored if it goes on for too long. I don't want to be mentally doing my grocery list because wonder lover thinks he’s got to out-beat his last record of 24.25 minutes.

I'm noticing what women want, and men THINK we want aren't really matched up.

Yes, a big penis is lovely to look at, but sometimes in reality, not all that comfortable. Thickness is often nicer than length. And I personally love big balls, the often neglected part of male genitalia. They’re just so sexy!

Do men concentrate on ball size? Do they worry men the same way that penis size does? These are the things I wonder about?

BALLS FACTS 1 The big-balled cheater

“Testicular research of a more sociological kind has deduced that men with large testicles are likely to be more unfaithful, the converse being true of men with small testicles,” says Hickman. Thus, he advises, with tongue firmly planted in cheek: “A woman” — or man, I would add — “seeking a reliable long-term partner might be advised to invest in an orchidometer,” a medical instrument designed for measuring balls.

Which does not bode well for me, because I have a real thing for big balls… So…I wonder how good that research really is. Do I need to go online and order an orchidometer? Or should I just go by feel or the ‘eyecometer.’

Getting back to performance. Yes, I don’t want someone to come in two seconds flat, but I also don’t want the marathon sex session where I’m a) sore b) dry and c) doing my grocery list.

I’m more concerned with what someone DOES with their hands, mouth and penis than just the penis alone in sex. I grew up in the generations of men who didn’t think a woman’s orgasm was necessary or even knew what it was. I’m probably less tolerant of men who are obsessed over THEIR size and THEIR ego needs in bed. And because I just have to know these things:

BALL FACTS 2 Blue balls are real. Prostatic congestion is the medical term for it – when the testicles and prostate are filled with too much goo and you can't get relief. Fortunately, instead of doing something irrational, a man could simply take an aspirin, a warm shower, or think about grandma having sex with grandpa.

PENIS FACTS 7 every year, Kawasaki, Japan holds a penis festival called the Kanamara Matsuri. This Shinto fertility festival includes a giant 2.5 meter wooden penis carried by locals, phallus-shaped tokens, and suggestively carved vegetables. 

So, in conclusion, what do we think? Well, it's insecurity on the part of all humans. A very human condition to ask the questions we do. We're not so much asking, aren't I fabulous, look at me. We're asking, am I okay, do you still love me, am I acceptable to you?

And here's a sexy penis shot, one of my favorites. It also brings us to our next topic we'd thought we'd talk about. I've noticed that a lot of us women and gay men are putting up sexy piccies of nude men. Is this the equivalent of the old 'girlie' magazine pinup spreads on guys bedroom walls in the 70's and 80's when I came of age? And we HATED them. Is this the equivalent though? Sexism reversed? We're wondering. 

Stayed tuned for our next Conversations with Spencer with Meg Amor and Spencer Dryden - sensual and erotic romance writers. The men and women's thoughts on love, sex and relationships. Aloha for now and thanks as always to the great readers!!! We love you. 

MEG AMOR: 

www.troikaromance.com

SPENCER DRYDEN: 

http://www.fictionbyspencer.com/home.html

TO S-HAVE OR NOT TO S-HAVE ~ That is the Question? Conversations with Spencer!

TO S-HAVE AND S-HAVE NOT! That is the Question

Aloha everyone!

Meg and Spencer here again in our Conversations with Spencer ramblings. J Thanks to all the readers. We appreciate your following. J

Well, I mentioned that we might look at the whole pubic hair issue this time.

I personally loathe the shaved look. Is it my culture, age group or what? I’m not sure.

I’m fifty-one and a young fifty-one, but it gives me the heebies. My best friend in New Zealand also thinks it’s weird. Most older Kiwis and Australians would find it a wee bit odd. So that suggests cultural to some degree.

What on earth??

Chocolate Kiwis? I've never heard of such a thing??

Until recently, the only people I knew who did it habitually were some gay men to make their penis look bigger. But I have another theory on that. More in a moment. I also had one Danish friend who shaved, but she was slightly younger.

I have spoken to a couple of non-erotica men in different age groups. My toyboy says he doesn’t mind either way, but he shaves because it’s expected of him. It took me DAYS to figure out what was ‘odd’ about his genitalia. LOL. I suddenly thought… Oh, no pubic hair.

Yeah…no! As we say in the old country.

The men I’ve spoken to, say on women it’s because you can see more.

If you spoke to my dad, he’d say, people have an unhealthy psychological, subconscious need to relate to women as little girls. Serious ick factor. And I wonder the same about gay men. Sometimes I think it’s something familiar. A replication of sexual experience at a young age… Yeah, my thoughts exactly. Not very nice. Major icky squicky factor there.

For me personally, it reminds me of little boys’ penises and/or some gay men. Neither of which are my thing sexually. Although, yes, I do like gay sex BUT I like the ones with pubic hair. LOL.

With no pubic hair, men are missing something very sexual for me. That sexy peak of pubic hair as the zipper comes down… Yum.

My best friend in New Zealand says her girls are shaving. She asked them if it was sexual, but they said it was because they wear little panties. How little are these panties I wonder? LOL. And it seems that EVERYONE in their age group does it? They’re 16 and 18.  

How tiny are these panties?

So it is one of those ‘trends,’ that comes and go? Americans in general seem to be more concerned with ‘hygiene’ things. It’s just hair?! So I don’t quite get this one. Are we going to make men shave their armpits next?

And here’s my other thing: some men don’t like shaved armpits. What do we think about that?  My dad (foremost authority on things. LOL) thinks it’s unnatural to not have body hair. Annette his partner, told him to get stuffed, she was not growing 2 inch long leg or underarm hair. LOL. But his ex partner Liz, used to have unshaved pits. I always remember her in a beautiful sparkly red evening dress. Then she lifted her arm for something and I thought… Ohhh. It jarred.

So, is it all culture, the times, personal preference, what?

SPENCER:

I had never thought much about this topic before. My mind immediately went in about five directions at once. Let me try to lasso a few of the rascals to the keyboard.

Isn't pubic hair strange in the first place? Why do we have it? It's so different from other body hair, why did we keep it as we were shedding our other primate hair. (Actually I think I heard we have the same number of hair follicles as the apes but a much different shape and texture.)

MEG:

Weird facts I’ve been reading about:

Pubic hair is often closest in color to the eyebrows. (Everyone's rushing off to have a peak down their jeans...)

A preference for hairless crotch in oneself or in another is known as acomoclitism.(Spencer: sounds like  disease Meg: Snorting with laughter.)

According to the Oxford Companion to the Body, in the 1450s women would shave their pubic hair for personal hygiene and to combat pubic lice and would then don a merkin or pubic wig.
Among the upper class in 19th-century Victorian Britian, pubic hair from one's lover was frequently collected as a souvenir. The curls were, for instance, worn like cockades in men's hats as potency talismans, or exchanged among lovers as tokens of affection.
The museum of St. Andrews University in Scotland has in its collection a snuffbox full of pubic hair of one of King George IV's mistresses.

The Snuff Box with the pubic hair in it. It must have been considered super sexy??! :-) 

Some definitions of pubic looks:

Natural and untrimmed pubic hair. Extends onto thighs.

American wax—hair limited to the bikini area. Also trimmed shorter.

French wax—waxing with a "landing strip". Labia are cleared.

Full Brazilian or the Sphinx—a full waxing. No hair at all.

No one seems to have a clear cut answer as to why we have it. I always thought it had some role in keeping the sex organs warm. Or it could be that they trap and release the pheromones in the body. The same for armpit hair, increasing sexual attraction to a mate. Which makes you wonder then if we’re missing some of our sexuality with the purging of pubic hair.  

And if you’re going to throw the ‘hygiene’ angle at me: Quote: from Emily Gibson in The Guardian. “It is a sadly misconceived war. Long ago, surgeons figured out that shaving a body part prior to surgery actually increased, rather than decreased, surgical site infections.” 

This is backed up by quite a few health care people who are seeing an increase in infections of various kinds, some very nasty, from lack of pubic hair.

Apparently it also helps keep the friction down during sex and one gyno says, that she’s seen some pretty nasty cases of ‘rug burn.’

So all in all…I’m glad to be following my instincts on it.
Regardless of health or anything else, it still turns me off. I find it slightly repulsive and extremely sexually unappealing. All my hero’s either get to grow their pubic hair back or a couple of shaved testicles, but that’s my limit. My men must have a ‘top beard’ as someone put it. J I personally like furry wee balls, rather gorgeous. But you know… that’s one of my kinks. LOL.

SPENCER:

We have already been through my lack of erotic interest in the male figure. Shaving seems to be a requirement of the porno films. I don't know why. (Meg: I think this is the perception that it makes the penis look bigger. I never think it does. It just looks silly to me and like it’s half dressed. Like a man going out in his shirt and tie with socks, and no trousers on. Most peculiar!!!) 

See what I mean? Yes, and not helped by the less than sexy underpants! Agreed. 

My interest is with the ladies. Here I have some recent personal experience.

My very hot wife had her first waxing over a year ago as a surprise for me. I really liked it for a variety of reasons. I'm 64, the decline in my sexual powers is noticeable. I'm not reaching for the blue pill yet, but I'm not the man I was (that's not all bad). Once of my motives for exploring my fascination with sex and the allure of the female via erotic fiction is I want to remain a sexual being. Waxing was stepping way out the box for my wife. The fact that she would do that for me was very touching. A big part of the appeal is that it made her feel sexy. That's good news for me.

My wife is an attractive, curvaceous woman about to turn 59. When people see us together I imagine them saying 'he must be rich'. She is continuously mistaken for someone much younger.  While she is attractive and fit, she has suffered from depression for as long as we have known each other. The demons eat at the self image of the sufferer and the medicine dampens the libido. Anything that makes her feel sexy: lingerie, clothes, shoes, hair, nails, pedicures—I'm for all of it. She claims sex is much more pleasurable without the pubic hair. She's never been able to really express why. Doesn't matter.  Case closed for me. Wax on wax off.

 I have offered to return the favor but she's not interested. I'm good with that.

MEG:

I’m sorry your wife suffers from depression Spencer. That’s such a hard thing to deal with and so more power to you and her, with the shaved look. Could you ask her please why she doesn’t want YOU to shave?

SPENCER: She says she like the feeling against her skin.

MEG: Oh, okay, that’s interesting. I’m trying to think if I like that. Yes, I do actually. And I love the way it looks. Good. So far, I have four women in the world (including myself) who support pubic hair on men. LOL. No, make that five now, we’ll throw in your wife, seeing as she likes it on you. J And I picked up another avid fan on Twitter tonight.

SPENCER:

Sometimes I wonder if it is we erotic writers who have moved the cultural needle toward baring the genitals, especially with women. When was the last time your read a passage that waxed (hee hee) lustfully about a large patch of public hair on a woman? It's all about "her shaved pussy glistening with her love juice." Again from the standpoint of horny guy, it really doesn't matter, if a woman is presenting her sex, we’re in.

MEG:

Me, me! My books have full pubic hair in them. LOL. And my men like them. From Charlie:

‘She’s gorgeous, very voluptuous and has full pubic hair. I must be getting slightly long in the tooth because I don’t like the shaved look. Some of these women look like plucked chickens. It reminds me of fucking a child. Henry and I agree.’

I also recently spoke to Elizabeth Safleur, another romance erotica writer and she ALSO likes pubic hair. Possibly she and I are the ONLY women on the US Continent who feel this way, so I’m not a completely lone voice. LOL (oh, and your wife! Gather the troops!)

SPENCER:

Vagina's are captivating. I'm sorry to say that for most guys, at least of my generation, sex is something that happens under the covers, in the dark with eyes closed. A vagina is a target we hit blindly. We never really see it. We are too close if our partner likes cunnilingus. It's back to our previous discussion(s) of men not really knowing their way around a woman's sexual needs and triggers.

It's not all guys fault. As liberated as we all try to be, women bring a host of negative body issues into the bedroom. If the hang ups that have been foisted upon both men and women aren't enough, throw in children. They kill spontaneity and force sex to late night clandestine activity with the foreplay consisting of a call to "brace yourself". 

MEG:

Yes, well, I’ve always thought children were the perfect form of birth control myself. J

I agree that the opening up of sexuality still has a long way to go. I doubt I really knew what was what, until I got into my forties. Well, that’s a lot of sexual years previously, that it was a largely mysterious affair of both men and women’s working parts. Not good.

Growing up, I doubt many men I went out with had even heard of the clitoris, and they definitely weren’t asking for directions to it. Having a length of time by myself after my second marriage helped me, in that I got brave enough to buy a vibrator. One 'adult ladies a titter' sex toy party and possibly a few too Margaritas at the time and I owned my first vibrator. Now, I feel the same way that Karl Malden did about his Amex card.

I also ended up with my older lover and he was the one that really taught me so much about my own body and what made it hum like a violin.

I have no explanation for the phobia about armpit hair. It seems to be more of an American trait. I like it. It hits of the animal nature we have and supposedly aids in the broadcast of pheromones. I'm all for pheromones. Maybe we wouldn't need the blue pill, if more pheromones were wafting about.

MEG:

Well, it’s worth a thought, isn’t it. I’d like to see more people using bioidentical hormones, replacing what our body is no longer producing. And it seems such a waste to have a low libido when we’re still healthy and active in other ways. I personally am in favor of natural progesterone cream for any women over about 37, when our natural progesterone starts dropping off, not the high level estrogens which are touted. We need progesterone for hormones levels of every kind, not to mention, brain function and healthy brain chemistry etc. But do not get me started on this. Email me if you want to know more about it. Or grab one of John Lee’s books. He’s the God on this stuff.

And for men, testoterone cream, to replace what their body isn’t producing as much of now. (Spencer:Except breasts on men, hair on women and children) Rubbish Spencer. You’re not using half a tube at a time. You’re using a teaspoon or so. The normal amount the body used to produce and isn’t any more!! And about a million times healthy than the blue pill. Proper amounts of bioidentical hormones keep people young, active and vital. Good for mens body health, mental and emotional health) Nothing weird or steroidy in any of this. Just things that we’re being depleted of. Like not getting enough thyroid or insulin. Our bodies NEED it to stay healthy, active and alive.

End of lecture from me! LOL.

Okay, have we brought about world peace, solved an existential crisis, or worked out how to get to Venus and back… No. But it’s been fun nonetheless. LOL. We’re always looking for new topics to poke around in. So if anyone ever wants to write in and suggest one, go ahead. We’ll definitely consider it. J

On our next Conversations with Spencer, we thought we might er…tackle…the question of penis size. Does it matter? To whom? Do people ever tell the truth when asked questions like “Am I big enough for you?” And other er…lengthy questions. 

Okay, I’ll acting the goat, but it’s an interesting subject anyway. And a very male subject to some degree.

Thanks for coming over and visiting us once again, listening to our ramblings on love, sex and relationships.


Aloha, until next time. Meg and Spencer. J