Aloha everyone! (NSFW) (Just warning you now. :-) )
This week I was on the wonderful blogsite
This blog... is about men, and coffee, and porn, and sex, and wine, and music, and intelligence, and fun, and women, and really hot photos, and giveaways. And it's about how all that stuff is absolutely normal and we will no longer apologize for any of it.
It's very fun. Has some lovely piccies of beautiful nudes. And Evaine and Shawny are really nice women! I also agree with them, that 'all that stuff is absolutely normal and we will no longer apologize for any of it.' Just so. :-)
Go and check them out, if you click on their title above, it should take you over there. If not: www.cupoporn.blogspot.com. I do have this blog feeding over, but I wanted to keep it on mine as well. :-) Apologies for weird formatting in places. Blogger and I are not in agreement lately. LOL.
Wednesday, July 16, 2014
Wednesday Whine & Wine with Meg Amor
Why DO we women like gay male porn so much?
Aloha everyone. I keep looking at this question because I write a ménage series. I love watching gay male porn and writing about male/male/female sex. And judging from this blog and others, I’m not the only woman who feels this way.
I stumbled across this realization when my‘nice wee romance’ turned into something else. Charlie was supposed to be my main character Henry’s, best friend, occasionally putting in an appearance, being a sounding board then disappearing again. But he didn’t get the memo. Or the hints to bugger off! I nicknamed him ‘bloody Charlie.’
I said to him, “You can’t be in this book. It’s a male/female romance. What would the readers think? People won’t go for that. Go away!”
He just gave me that slow sultry smile, his hot black eyes spearing me. “I just want one sex scene with them.” He brushed the back of his hand against my face, the smoldering sensuous burn and I caved…
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| I thought this piccie would be lovely for my Aloha Friday segment on fb. But I thought someone might object. |
Okay, it wasn’t quite like that, but fairly close. I talked to my mentor, who said, “Let him have a scene, just run with it. He’ll be satisfied and that’ll be that.”
So…I did.
And he wasn’t.
Four books later, Charlie’s the strongest character, and the one most loved in my Troika Love Series. LOL. People love Henry and Izzy, but Charlie captures their heart and soul.
So, what the hell IS it about male/male sex scenes? Why do we find them so attractive? My lovers are in a committed loving troika relationship. They usually make love together, but occasionally it’s a twosome. Initially getting everyone’s bits and bobs in the right place, making sure everyone got looked after, well, it wasn’t as smooth as I would have liked.
I decided I’d do some research. Stop laughing. I really did start watching porn ‘for research only purposes.’
The hetero porn was jaw droppingly—boring. The women all looked like they were mentally doing their grocery list. That vacant stare you get, as you twiddle your pen, thinking…do we need more air freshener? No one looked like they were having a lot of fun. Some of them laughed like they were at a coffee morning. And the action was mechanical. Part A slots into part B, C or D.
But then, I stumbled across a gay ménage or just male/male and wow…okay…that’s a turn on!
Why?
The men seemed to be enjoying themselves for a start. They talk quietly, there’s a connection—the soft groans and genuine smiles. They kiss. A good kisser can do anything with me. A bad kisser and the whole thing’s not happening. Ugh. It’s a turn-off.
They touch each other. Nipples are tweaked, stomachs are stroked, skin nuzzled. And yes they do laugh. But you get the feeling it’s in genuine enjoyment. It’s arousing.
I write what I want to read, the steamy sensuous explicit sex scenes because I really hate reading a romance where this happens. …his zipper came down…
I write what I want to read, the steamy sensuous explicit sex scenes because I really hate reading a romance where this happens. …his zipper came down…
My God, that was the best orgasm I’ve ever had…
Er…hang on a minute? Where’s the juicy bit in the middle? I’ve been robbed!
I like men. And I like men’s genitalia. Here’s what Izzy said to Charlie once about men.
“I like men naked. They’re very sexy, Charlie baby.”
Hinting at something delicious and sexy, but it never rears its head, so to speak.
I like men. And I like men’s genitalia. Here’s what Izzy said to Charlie once about men.
“A lot of women think men are ugly naked.” I wanted to see what she’d say.
“Oh no, men are gorgeous. I like men’s penis’s and balls. Sooo sexy. You get great shapes and textures. They hang nicely and a penis changes shape. Such soft velvety skin, then you turn someone on and you get a hard silky cock.”"Christ woman,” I’d said, as images flashed through my head, my cock growing.
She also thinks this when she’s turning Henry on in his sleep.
I love these slow ones, watching and feeling the stages it goes through. The soft flaccid penis to the blood engorged cock with its soft velvety skin and rock hard interior. It’s very sensuous.
And I suspect most of us women who like gay porn movies and still shots are the same.
Last week on Coffee and Porn there was a shot of a lovely man with an erection walking across the room. The lovely sway of his cock was mesmerizing. I couldn’t take my eyes off it either! Just so damn delicious!
And in gay male porn, you get two penises, two sets of balls and for me a personal favorite, two sets of pubic hair. Yummy. And there’s just something a wee bit illicit about two men having sex, isn’t there. It titillates and arouses. All that gorgeous male energy poured into an intimate connection. Oh yes!
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Dark War
Lonely Charlie Laralde aches with pent-up sexual tension and love for his two best friends, Henry and Izzy. His desire for them is torn to shreds by a vicious woman convincing him, he's unlovable trash. Like the inner Dark War struggle he's fought his whole life, he gives in to the darkness. Frustrated and hell bent on destruction, he disappears with an unsavory crowd on a depraved death wish booty-call.
Will Henry and Izzy rescue him in time? Can they convince Charlie he's their hearts desire? And the deep passionate love and desire they have for him?
~ The Flame Still Burns
My romance erotica short story Dark War was published this year with Muse It Up Publishing. You get to meet my three Charlie, Henry and Izzy. They were darkened up slightly for this story, but their essential characters are still the same. The love connection between them doesn’t change. Three hearts entwined in a deep velvety love story.
Dark War
This sensuous sultry romance is set in an old planation house in The Bayou of Louisiana. Three hearts entwined between two beautiful Creole men and one wild redhead woman. Thunderheads roll in off the bay on a hot and sultry night. The wind chimes are going wild. This heat flash has been building for a few days. Anything could happen...
Lonely Charlie Laralde aches with pent-up sexual tension and love for his two best friends, Henry and Izzy. His desire for them is torn to shreds by a vicious woman convincing him, he's unlovable trash. Like the inner Dark War struggle he's fought his whole life, he gives in to the darkness. Frustrated and hell bent on destruction, he disappears with an unsavory crowd on a depraved death wish booty-call.
Will Henry and Izzy rescue him in time? Can they convince Charlie he's their hearts desire? And the deep passionate love and desire they have for him?
BUY LINKS:
Troika Love Series Trilogy
~ Henry and Isolde
~ The Chi Circle
~ The Flame Still Burns
Henry and Isolde~ A steamy love story, set in modern day New Orleans. Henry, an older black musician feels his life is nearing its end. Until he falls in love with Izzy, his white New Zealander, younger, richer, married boss. To his joy—she feels the same way about him. He comes into his sexuality for the first time in his life. But will Izzy leave her husband? And how does Henry's best friend Charlie fit into their lives? It's complicated...
The Chi Circle~ Charlie comes back early from seeing Mea in New Zealand. It's not working, why? Because he's in love with someone else. Well...two someone's actually. But do his best friends have any idea how he feels? Is this a one sided frustrated fantasy? Or is it possible, they feel the same way? Follow the CHI - Charlie, Henry and Izzy, as their life takes them from Hawaii to New Orleans and France. Where they discover a lifetime just after World War I in Paris—two Russian émigrés cousins and a young Frenchman become lovers.
The Flame Still Burns~ Life has settled into a happy easy rhythm for the three lovers. Charlie's Club is sold and they are getting ready to go to France, to research the Russian/French lifetime, when there's a knock at the door. Standing on the doorstep is a kid from a rough neighborhood of New Orleans—the spitting image of Charlie. How will they cope with Alex, who twangs at their heart strings? When he gets shot after a gangland shooting, they take him to France, where they unravel the rest of the French lifetime, they're all involved in.
The Chi Circle~ Charlie comes back early from seeing Mea in New Zealand. It's not working, why? Because he's in love with someone else. Well...two someone's actually. But do his best friends have any idea how he feels? Is this a one sided frustrated fantasy? Or is it possible, they feel the same way? Follow the CHI - Charlie, Henry and Izzy, as their life takes them from Hawaii to New Orleans and France. Where they discover a lifetime just after World War I in Paris—two Russian émigrés cousins and a young Frenchman become lovers.
The Flame Still Burns~ Life has settled into a happy easy rhythm for the three lovers. Charlie's Club is sold and they are getting ready to go to France, to research the Russian/French lifetime, when there's a knock at the door. Standing on the doorstep is a kid from a rough neighborhood of New Orleans—the spitting image of Charlie. How will they cope with Alex, who twangs at their heart strings? When he gets shot after a gangland shooting, they take him to France, where they unravel the rest of the French lifetime, they're all involved in.
The first of this series will be released later in the year. Look out for it on Amazon.
Interesting post, thanks.
ReplyDeleteSome of the difference between hetero and gay porn is due to the history of censorship. In the 1970s and 80s, straight porn films often were prepared with the ability to make a soft core version. The films would have plots and characters (however silly), and ensure ample nudity and foreplay in addition to explicit sex, which could be cut, or cut and replaced with alternate soft core footage. The soft core versions were for cable TV and jurisdictions where explicit sex was prohibited.
Thanks to loosening censorship restrictions and the internet, these films have been largely replaced by non-stop mechanical sex, though a few are still made. Restrictions on gay porn lasted longer and are still in effect in some areas, so there is a greater demand for soft core material and films that can be edited to soft core.
Loosening censorship restrictions and the internet mean dull mechanical gay porn is becoming more available, but the inherent equality of the performers should prevent it from becoming as common as dull hetero porn.
Aloha Tim
ReplyDeleteThis was extremely interesting. Thank you for this. Now, that you've mentioned it. I DO remember some films from that era and yes, they did have stories. Yes, silly... but quite different to today's porn movies.
I think you said it well when you said, 'non-stop mechanical sex.' Very. Ah, interesting on gay porn. I didn't realise that either.
Yes, I do hope it doesn't become as boring as hetero porn. I was on another group and they talked about the emergence of gay sex in both books and film, appealing to women. (whether this is new, or just more widely talked about, I don't know.) But they talked about the attraction for women to the more 'feminized man.' I'd probalby call them 'metro men' as compared to 'alpha men.' And part of the attraction with gay sex scenes, was that some women are looking for a different more 'emotionally' available man in many regards.
Anyway, thanks very much for your comment. That was very interesting.
I appreciate you reading.
Aloha Meg :-)